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Grief is a constant companion to joy.
The beginning of one thing often means the end of another, and the grief that comes with it is just as important to honor.
When you don’t deal with grief head-on, it can come out sideways — leading to mental and physical health issues. Grief can (and will) come up at many different times during the process of aging, like:
- leaving the family home
- losing mobility
- loss of memory
- thinking about end-of-life issues
- surrendering your control to someone else
There are so many facets to grief that deserve discussion, but we are going to talk about the benefits of grief and how it can be a good thing. Not possible? It’s true. For those of us who have experienced the emotional wallops of grief and come out the other side, the upside to being down is real.
The Shape of Grief
We have all become so familiarized to the 5 Stages of Grief that perhaps we expect the stages to be experienced in sequential order, lasting a set amount of time, and ending when acceptance has finally been reached. But, really, grief comes in so many different waves, shapes, reasons, triggers, and time frames.
Grief can come from the death of a loved one or pet, divorce, loss of independence, physical disability, mental disability, isolation, transportation changes, family structure changes, etc. You name it, grief can come with it. And grief can come with happy things, too… loss and grief are interchangeable.
When your child gets married, there can be so much excitement, but the loss of them being “yours alone” comes with it. A sadness may accompany your feelings of joy and happiness, which can feel strange.
Or, moving. If you decide that assisted living/independent living is the best way to embrace aging, it will still mean selling your home of 30 years… and that can trigger all sorts of grief.
And grief can get complicated.
When it gets complicated, it can spiral into many different health problems including mental and physical health concerns, like depression and/or anxiety. Isolation can accompany this and it can be exacerbated by a decreased or increased appetite, forgetfulness or negligence in taking medication, increased or decreased sleeping, increased agitation, and irritability, and it can even lead to thoughts of taking your life.